Real life is messy.
And I don't mean the kitchen counter with papers, a tap shoe, jam, and books spread all over it kind of messy, although at my house that happens too.
I mean the "oops, I lost my phone book and didn't invite three Aunts, 2 cousins and one friend to the 4th of July party and now I have half the family offended" messy, or "the moment when someone I respect just rubs me the wrong way like sandpaper on skin and I know it's not their fault, but I'm still stinging anyway" kind of messy.
These are moments that I often agonize over, or want to just ignore, or fix, or over-analyze.
But they happen anyway. They are a part of life, and human relationships. Mistakes get made, things are forgotten or lost. Someone makes the wrong remark too many times.
Yesterday, I agonized and prayed over some moments like that.
Then I woke up this morning, thinking about my writing, and wondered,
What can I do with that mess, other than stew over it?
and What does the messiness of real life have to do with writing stories?
Hmm. Well, I think it goes into creating authentic characters that feel real, because they have messes in their lives. They don't have perfection. I admit I like suphero stories and epic fantasy stories, but even there I am secretly thankful when the heroes and heroines are flawed, when they have a little mess in their lives.
So, today, I'm going to create a little more messiness for my characters to deal with in their story. Something they can learn and grow from, and not just stew over, I hope.
"Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong. Do everything in love." 1 Corinthians 16:13