Friday, August 12, 2016

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Wild Huzzahs, Staying Home, and Knowing when to Go

As you can tell from the title of this post, there's a lot going on in my life and I really don't have a good, encapsulating title for it. And, this is a long one. Just hit the bold, if that's all you have time for - I couldn't seem to edit very well this time around.

If you've friended me on facebook, or you see every one of my tweets, you might know what I'm talking about . . . or at least some of it.

For the first week of August, my family traveled to Oklahoma City for USA Canoe and Kayak Sprint Nationals. OKC has the best venue for Sprint Canoe and Kayaking, and has created a man-made white-water course for athletes as well. It's an amazing place. Live video feeds show the audience the entire race course. The times and places of the athletes show up on the video board as they finish - even when it's a photo-finish for places.

Our team, Gig Harbor Canoe and Kayak Racing Team, won Nationals for the fifth time! 
(Lanier Canoe and Kayak from Georgia holds the record by winning 10 years in a row.)



This year, Nationals was also the qualifier for the Olympic Hopes team going to the Olympic Hopes Regatta in Sezged, Hungary this fall. The OHR was created to inspire young athletes and to create a legacy for the sport. Only athletes born between 1999 and 2001 can compete (ages 15-17) this year. 35 athletes were chosen from Nationals to go,  13 come from our team, and two of them are my daughters. (Due to the cost of international competition, we are running two Go Fund Me campaigns. If you are interested in supporting them, just click on the links below the images. The funds will go to airfare, hotel costs, and the competition only.)



This is huge - in a lot of ways.

My daughters are going to compete internationally in a sport that they've fallen passionately in love with over the past 3 years. They've practiced six days a week for over a year, including on the water and in the gym workouts. This summer they've practiced or worked out 5-6 hours a day, with rest in the middle of two workouts each day.

If that was the only thing going on in life, it would be plenty.

However . . .

My oldest just left on a mission trip for Chiclayo, Peru with an awesome team of 15 people from our church. Every other teen that's going has a parent with them, but she requested an independent mission trip. I haven't attended a single mission trip meeting or planning session. She's taken full responsibility for all of it. I did run through a packing checklist with her the night before, but that's all. She will be on a different continent (that I've never visited), giving out health packets (including washable feminine hygiene) at schools, and helping with after-school programs. She is responsible for one DIY activity with the kids - she created a bubble wand out of two sticks and a thin piece of rope. She'll share this at the after-school programs and help kids make bubble wands with found materials.
This is the mission team, on the airport shuttle at 5 a.m. this morning.
Please pray for them to experience God's love overflowing through all that they do for the next 10 days.



I had to stay home, and it's hard.  I've always wanted to travel but somehow lost that ambition/dream as life plodded along. And yet, I'm oddly proud of myself for staying this time. It's taken a lot of prayer and perseverance to not go, to not hover, to trust God, to rely on the mission team, and to entrust my daughter with all the responsiblities that surround international travel. My daughter has made me proud with her ability to prepare and plan for an international trip. Yes, she did forget her jacket this morning, but she is becoming an amazing young adult, and I'm thankful for this opportunity to stay back and see that clearly.

So, sometimes I know I should stay.

But, there are also times that I should go.

It's a huge budget squeeze, but I'll be traveling to Sezged, Hungary with other parents to cheer for our kids competing in the Olympic Hopes Regatta this September. My hover-craft momminess will have to still take a side-seat since the team is traveling separate from parents and practicing apart from parents, but I'll be there to shout from the stands. (My funds will not come from GoFundMe - I'm getting there as cheaply as possible - cheapest flight option, cheapest hotel with other parent roommates, and cheapest everything.)

My husband is staying home, which is a bummer - I'll miss him every moment I'm gone. We just celebrated our 20th year anniversary and I love being with him every single day. It's going to be tough to live without him for a week - the longest time away from each other since he left the Navy reserves.

Whether I stay or go, it seems there is always a part of me yearning for the other option.

And, can you imagine why my immune system decided to go wonky and let in the latest cold/sinus nastiness going around? It's not like I've experienced high excitement or stress lately, right? 

And, my writing has been reduced to short stories, poetry, and short non-fiction lately. I haven't been able to focus on anything longer in a few weeks. Maybe, I'll bury my head in one of my projects for the next week, with my oldest daughter gone and my youngest daughter resuming 6 hours a day of kayak training (this includes gym workouts, running, and water workouts).

"Shadow Magic" was published by Aurora Wolf on August 1st - so check it out, if you're up for a bite of fantasy fiction.



I'm taking a few days off from blogging this month - I didn't originally intend to post today, but I'm having a mommy-writer moment.
I'll be back the 26th and Mark Noce will be visiting on the 31st.

35 comments:

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Wow, that is a lot! Big congratulations to your daughters. What an experience for them. Glad you get to go on that trip.
Your oldest is going to come back changed from her missions trip.
And congratulations on the latest story!

Jeff Chapman said...

Congrats on the short story pub and congrats to all your kids on their accomplishments. The Hungary trip sounds very exciting.

John and Tyrean Martinson said...

Thank you!!!
And yes, I think it will be an eye-opening, life-changing experience for her.

John and Tyrean Martinson said...

Thanks!
I'm super excited - and just getting all the details together.

Madeline Mora-Summonte said...

Whoo hoo on, well, everything! Okay, except for the cold. That gets a boo/hiss. :)

CWMartin said...

Wow, that is busy! Good luck on the competitions, and I'll be praying on the mission trip!

L. Diane Wolfe said...

Hungary - wow! That is amazing. Be proud of all of your daughters. I know you're worried about the oldest, but she's doing the work of the Lord.

lorilmaclaughlin.com said...

Wow, what an exciting time! Huge congrats to your daughters on all they've accomplished! I have to admit to being one of those helicopter moms. My kids are teens now and it's so hard to step back and let them figure things out for themselves and do their own things. My daughter is going for her driver permit test next week and will be taking driver's ed. in the fall. Very scary for me. Have a wonderful trip to Hungary, and congrats on your story publication! Love the cover image.

cleemckenzie said...

Sending kids off anywhere on their own is always scary and exciting. They'll be great. Very excited for you .

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

I think you've made the right decisions about staying or going. Good on you that your girls are brave and independent. Congrats to them for being picked for the international team!
You've read my blog and how I stress about my daughter on her many trips to the Middle East. It's part of the 'mom' job description to worry but let them fly free on their own.

Karen Lange said...

Wow, you do have a lot going on! I saw your FB posts, but somehow missed that you were in OK for that. Congratulations to your kids on all counts. That is exciting news! Will be praying for you all. :)

Tyrean Martinson said...

Thanks, Madeline!

Tyrean Martinson said...

Thanks!

Tyrean Martinson said...

So true. Thanks, Diane!

Tyrean Martinson said...

The driver's permit and license for my oldest was one of the first, huge steps for independence for her, and it's been a good experience.
I'm sure your daughter will do great!
Thanks for all of your encouragement!

Tyrean Martinson said...

Yes, it is, and I know they will be, but I have those 3 a.m. doubts.
Thanks, C.Lee!

Tyrean Martinson said...

It definitely is part of the mom job description, and I have to say that reading your accounts helped me be a bit braver about it.

Tyrean Martinson said...

Thank you!

worddreams said...

When my kids were growing up, I followed them to all their competitions, but rarely internationally. Now they're almost 30--I still want to ask if they've got their passport and have enough money, but I know they do.

Erika said...

I am so impressed with all the talents and service your family is blessed with. I would be in your same shoes. I wouldn't know either. Congratulations on all your wonderful adventures ahead and now in your family :)

Aidyl Ewoh said...

Wow! It sounds like a lot of stuff is going on in your life right now. I've been to Peru, and I'm quite happy that your daughter can go there.
Congrats for your daughters who are going to compete. That's really cool! Way to go!
~Aidyl from Noveltea

Tamara Narayan said...

Man, talk about a full plate! I got into kayaking last year after trying out my father-in-laws. We own two, but I usually go out to Lake Ontario by myself. Two days ago, the waters were rolling a bit, but I went anyway. I still fell like I'm in the waves, rising and falling. But it's cool. I love being out on the water. Congrats to your daughter for the international competition. That is amazing. And congrats to your other daughter on her mission. Another big wow.

Cherie Reich said...

Congratulations to your daughters! That's a fantastic opportunity for them, and I hope everything works out.

Tyrean Martinson said...

Thank you, Erika!

Tyrean Martinson said...

Thanks, Aidyl!

Tyrean Martinson said...

Thanks!

Tyrean Martinson said...

Thank you, Cherie!!!

Chemist Ken said...

Man, I didn't do anything at all exciting back when I was their age. Congrats to their spirit and determination.

Heather R. Holden said...

Many congrats to your daughters! What an honor it must be to be chosen for something like the Olympic Hopes Regatta. Wow!

Also, congrats on your latest story publication! I remember seeing "Shadow Magic" pop up on Twitter a while back and loved it. Such an intriguing fantasy world! :)

Tyrean Martinson said...

I don't think I did either, Ken.
Thanks!

Tyrean Martinson said...

Thank you, Heather!!!

Cathrina Constantine said...

WOW!!! You have so much going on in your life. How exciting about your daughters!! And going to Peru on a mission for God is astounding. My son, when in high school, had traveled to Appalachia with a priest and other students to help build a house for the poor. It's an experience he'll never forget.

cleemckenzie said...

I did read about your adventures on fb! Such great things going on in your life right now and a new book!

M Pax said...

Your girls are doing amazing things. You must be so proud. You did a fabulous job. That has to feel fantastic.

Crystal Collier said...

Whew! Definitely a crazy, busy, epic season of life. And I thought we were crazy. We are, just a different kind of crazy. Here, let me leave you some cheese to carry you through!